To check index use:

SELECT   OBJECT_NAME(S.[OBJECT_ID]) AS [OBJECT NAME], 
         I.[NAME] AS [INDEX NAME], 
         USER_SEEKS, 
         USER_SCANS, 
         USER_LOOKUPS, 
         USER_UPDATES 
FROM     SYS.DM_DB_INDEX_USAGE_STATS AS S 
         INNER JOIN SYS.INDEXES AS I 
           ON I.[OBJECT_ID] = S.[OBJECT_ID] 
              AND I.INDEX_ID = S.INDEX_ID 
WHERE    OBJECTPROPERTY(S.[OBJECT_ID],'IsUserTable') = 1 

To check index leaf inserts:

SELECT OBJECT_NAME(A.[OBJECT_ID]) AS [OBJECT NAME], 
       I.[NAME] AS [INDEX NAME], 
       A.LEAF_INSERT_COUNT, 
       A.LEAF_UPDATE_COUNT, 
       A.LEAF_DELETE_COUNT 
FROM   SYS.DM_DB_INDEX_OPERATIONAL_STATS (NULL,NULL,NULL,NULL ) A 
       INNER JOIN SYS.INDEXES AS I 
         ON I.[OBJECT_ID] = A.[OBJECT_ID] 
            AND I.INDEX_ID = A.INDEX_ID 
WHERE  OBJECTPROPERTY(A.[OBJECT_ID],'IsUserTable') = 1

To look for missing indexes:

SELECT
  migs.avg_total_user_cost * (migs.avg_user_impact / 100.0) * (migs.user_seeks + migs.user_scans) AS improvement_measure,
  'CREATE INDEX [missing_index_' + CONVERT (varchar, mig.index_group_handle) + '_' + CONVERT (varchar, mid.index_handle)
  + '_' + LEFT (PARSENAME(mid.statement, 1), 32) + ']'
  + ' ON ' + mid.statement
  + ' (' + ISNULL (mid.equality_columns,'')
    + CASE WHEN mid.equality_columns IS NOT NULL AND mid.inequality_columns IS NOT NULL THEN ',' ELSE '' END
    + ISNULL (mid.inequality_columns, '')
  + ')'
  + ISNULL (' INCLUDE (' + mid.included_columns + ')', '') AS create_index_statement,
  migs.*, mid.database_id, mid.[object_id]
FROM sys.dm_db_missing_index_groups mig
INNER JOIN sys.dm_db_missing_index_group_stats migs ON migs.group_handle = mig.index_group_handle
INNER JOIN sys.dm_db_missing_index_details mid ON mig.index_handle = mid.index_handle
WHERE migs.avg_total_user_cost * (migs.avg_user_impact / 100.0) * (migs.user_seeks + migs.user_scans) > 10
ORDER BY migs.avg_total_user_cost * migs.avg_user_impact * (migs.user_seeks + migs.user_scans) DESC